MAY 19, 2026
Is it possible to create love over time?
When Harry met Sally (1989)
When you think about soulmates, you are immediately led to the idea that you’re supposed to instantly fall in love with someone you’ve just met.
However, what if your soulmate is already part of your life and you simply haven’t noticed yet? How are you supposed to find your soulmate in someone you barely know?
Rushed relationships almost always end as quickly as they begin.
This myth that soulmates are destined to be together — and that you’ll immediately recognise them the moment you meet — feels almost equivalent to an arranged marriage, where people barely know each other before committing for reasons beyond love itself.
The truth is, we are used to this idea of romance. It’s a fantasy that has been passed down through generations, but in reality, things rarely happen that way.
Bridget Jones’s Diary (2001)
The real question is not whether soulmates exist or not, but whether it’s actually possible to be 100% compatible with someone. Can you ever truly find the perfect person for you?
I believe that if two people share similar interests and are emotionally compatible, they are definitely a match. But that doesn’t mean they are the same person — otherwise, you would simply be in a relationship with yourself.
The reality is that no two people are completely compatible. We all have flaws, fears, and problems. You simply have to find someone you genuinely want to know deeply, someone you feel comfortable around.
And if there’s something awful about that person that you simply cannot accept while dating them, then leave. It’s not that complicated.
But what if the right person is already your friend? What if you gave a chance to someone who has already been part of your life for years?
Can love grow over time?
Friends (1994 – 2004)
Honestly, it feels much easier to become lovers after being friends first. It’s as if the relationship already begins on a deeper level.
That’s why, when in doubt, maybe you shouldn’t rush things. What’s wrong with being friends first and seeing where life takes you afterward?
No pressure, just the creation of something new.
Like growing a flower in a garden, love takes time.
And if it doesn’t work out, at least you gained a friendship.
But don’t confuse friendship with romance if you are not truly interested in that person romantically — otherwise, you may ruin both.
In the end, love is all about intuition and feelings.
Maybe soulmates are not found instantly.
Maybe they are created slowly, over time.
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